We all know what BDSM stands for, aren’t we?
BDSM – Bondage & Discipline / Domination & Submission / Sadism & Masochism.
But what is really BDSM?

Let me start with an introduction to my question:
I Usually do not intend to tell people that I am a Master in the BDSM world, on the contrary – I hide it. Israel is a small place and people do not have an open mind about sexual stuff here. Telling such thing to the wrong person can trigger questions and gossip that can make you lose stuff, like your job (small country after all).

But….and but is a huge factor here….sometimes even I find myself caught in a conversation when people ask me: “Hey **** what really excites you in a woman?”. This question usually follows with: “You have very high expectations, you judge girls so severely”…
That is the time to mention that I am really good at body language (to see people and their real intentions), that’s why I know how to educate my cuties.
…Then I decide to bluffת or say: “it’s the BDSM that excites me and I know if she will fit the profile”.
And then it starts: “Weird, sick, strange…silence…what is BDSM exactly?”

This question takes me back to the beginning of the subject
BDSM is an art, it’s a unique way of life, it’s more than words – if you haven’t tried you could not understand.
B(D) – Bondage & Discipline:
The art of bondage is so special when you see the rope on the slave’s body (even if she’s not restrained), it’s something else. To tie her up and let her go to places with underwear/bra or just other decoration made out of rope, it’s so sexy.
Discipline is part of the education. she MUST respect the MASTER that invests her so much, minimum demand.
D(S) – Domination & Submission:
The world divided into 2 camps, those who dominate and those who serve.
I have been a dominant animal since I remember myself and if she is a sub/slave we have a good start off – we differ from each other but maybe have a chance to complete each other (one needs guidance and the other needs to guide).
SM – Sadism & Masochism:
I believe some of us love to “gain” pain and some of us love to “give” pain (physically). I personally love to train females to deal pain, it releases a huge amount of adrenaline and with the combination of dopamine and neurons from the VTA (brain), it can make her squirt easily. When my slave is happy, I am happy.

Normally after that long explanation, people are in shock and ask: “I don’t get it, how can someone love pain or told what to do?”
I answer: “It’s more than that, stop comparing it to your anemic life in such simplicity. Try to reach into your mental feeling, close your eyes and see true art and love, then you’ll understand – the connection is special”.
Some other people just smile and tell me that they don’t judge me, every person and his preference – those are the people I like 😉

Let me summarize it a bit:
I (or at least most of us) can not transfer the great feeling of a BDSM session but I can say to the newcomers of the BDSM community: “just be who you are and don’t be shy about that (at least not with yourselves). Try to experience as much as you can and conquer yourself, find the right partner and you will find the true meaning of happiness”.

Remember: “BDSM embraces everybody, but not everybody embraces BDSM”.